FIND YOUR GUIDING LIGHT IN A PARTNER, NOT JUST CHARM
Life is a journey and not a destination, an overnight and treacherous with tempests and hidden shoals. Under these circumstances, a partner needs to be strong and steady, too.
A Sanskrit verse from Durga saptshati articulates this expectation "Patni manormam dehi manovritanusarnim tarnim durg sansar sagrasya kulod- bhwam."
Which, in simple English, means: "May my wife be beautiful, understand my mind, and be a boat to take me across the rough sea of this world, which is full of distress. and from a good respectable family"
The following line depicts more of a wish or hope to have a wife, who should not only be beautiful and fair but also caring and sharing. It has been interpreted to symbolize the journey of life that is often considered a voyage full of hazards and perils.
The wife plays the sailboat that carries the husband across this voyage and provides him with the strength and support he needs to achieve success.
This verse illustrates marriage as something more than the living together of two people.
''Wife Being Smart and Not Just Pretty''
It describes the importance of the wife being smart and not just pretty. A good wife guesses what her husband is thinking and what he needs before he says it.
Their presence and poise during the worst moments in life can fill people with strength and comfort. A good partner, because of the winning personality, lights up moods and brings positive vibes along with them wherever they go.
A Bond of Understanding
This bond of understanding creates a feeling of togetherness and turns them into a team against life's ups and downs.
Of course, charm alone isn't enough. The huge ocean is symbolic of the world with all its tricky parts. It portrays the stuff that gets heavy, problems, and surprise issues we face in our lives.
The wife keeps things steady when life gets rough, like a strong ship, supporting her husband through the turmoil. She gives him a feeling of safety when everything's disturbed and uncertain.
A partner who gets what is in your mind listens to you without judgment. Understanding what you are going through, is all that is worth their weight in gold.
They provide a place where one can drop his guard and where the people actually care about what one thinks and feels.
It goes even further. A good captain needs a strong ship. One that can weather the storm and sail into the unknown. Without a capable and trusted right-hand person, though, even a good captain is useless.
But for a particularly hardy boat, a good sailor needs an equally sure compass to plot his path across the water. She is his compass, and with her insight into her husband, they power through life together, side by side, against bad weather and strong currents, and end up where they hope to be.
Life is full of uncertainties and risks. Searching for a person who is not only nice but also an understanding soul is like searching in the ocean for a sturdy boat that would see you through even the most violent tempests. You can withstand any problem that suddenly rears its head, knowing you've got each other's backs.
This part isn't about one person only; it goes both ways. A husband should try to be a helpful and caring partner, giving strength and advice to help them both move ahead as a team.
The beauty of the sloka lies in the perpetuity of its message. It soars beyond cultural barriers and speaks to the perennial humanness, to the need for a mate, a beautiful and useful mate-one who understands them and sees them through life's ups and downs. The poem reminds an age that can be vastly lonely of the sustained power of a sensitive and supportive partnership.
It is a relationship acting as a safe haven of trust, guiding one through life on earth, which keeps on changing.
So kindly, if you have found a companion who keeps you going and finds you desirable- well they are there to guide you.
May you both enjoy a journey with loads of love, care, and plenty of trips.
